I have never received as much feedback or have had as many views as I did when I wrote the first part of this blog. So I have come to update and add some thoughts to the subject. I also plan on writing some of my goals for this upcoming season of singleness of mine. I am so excited for this season and I am already filled with contentment in knowing this season is essential.
I am not one of those girls that puts a timeframe on how long she plans to be single or how long she vows not to date. I see many starting off New Years with that as their goal, and I do not necessarily agree with that strategy. I do not necessarily think we should ever put a timeframe on things, rather let God do the planning and you follow His lead. So with that being said, however long this season is for me, I plan on making it fruitful, purposeful, and meaningful.
I will forever be amazed at all that can happen in just one year. I just do not think I will ever get over that. This past year has been such an essential part in my growing relationship with Christ. The fall season has always been a harder time for me as that is when I have faced many of my struggles. I always get a little nervous when this season comes wondering what will come of it. But this year, I have no fear for I know who holds my future. With everything I have learned, I know the start of fall is also the start of a new season. And this season I choose to focus on Jesus.
I encourage all you single girls, to use this time to your advantage. I wrote this in my last singleness blog:
You need to be so in love and confident in the Lord, that when a man comes along it will not distract you from the Lord. You also have to learn to love yourself before you can ever love a significant other. Let Jesus define who you are before you fall in the trap of letting a man define you... I do not remember who said this but it has stuck with me- "enjoy this season of singleness, because it could be preparing you for a lifetime of marriage."
I am someone who has always longed for marriage, so I cannot help but have that topic be on my mind. But, we need to make sure that is not on our minds 24/7. I want this season to be so purposeful that when I do get in my next relationship, I stand firm in only letting Jesus define who I am. It is so easy to get distracted in a relationship and put God second without even realizing it. That is why being single is such a special time.
A song I have really been clinging to lately, is You Say by Lauren Daigle. It is so important to be reminded of those truths when we tell ourselves so many lies. Here are some of my favorite lyrics from her song:
You say I am loved when I can’t feel a thing You say I am strong when I think I am weak You say I am held when I am falling short The only thing that matters now is everything You think of me In You I find my worth, in You I find my identity
In the time of singleness, we need to cling to what is good. We have to understand where our worth and identity comes from before any type of relationship. You are loved. You are strong. You are held. All by the Creator of the universe! No matter my relationship status, I want girls to know it is okay to be single. Us girls tend to find our worth in guys and what they think of us. We will never be satisfied if we try and find our worth in earthly things or people. We need to stop that mentality as our worth ONLY comes from Jesus. When we focus on a growing relationship with Jesus, we do not have to worry about our relationship status. The only relationship status that matters is your one with Jesus.
-Emily Joy Journal
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