The Season of Singleness.

I have learned to love the season I am in, whatever that season might be. Specifically right now, it is the season of singleness however long that may be. It is a time that is and should be sweet with the Lord. It is a time God wants us all to himself with no significant other to worry about. One of my absolute favorite books, Lady in Waiting by Jackie Kendall talks about becoming a lady of:

Reckless Abandon

Diligence

Faith

Virtue

Devotion

Purity

Security

Contentment

Conviction

& Patience

These are qualities we must strive for in a time of singleness and even when you are in a relationship. Being single is often looked at as a bad thing, when it should be looked at much differently. It could be you are not ready for a relationship or perhaps the person God has for you is not ready, whatever the case we need to use our time wisely.

Heart Check:

Do you spend your time daydreaming about your future love life, or do you spend your time with the one whom loves you the most, Jesus?

Don't waste whatever season you are in by wishing it away, that does not benefit anyone. God has you in the exact season He wants you in, and that is such a good reminder to say everyday.

The Lady in Waiting

Recklessly abandon's herself to the Lordship of Christ,

Diligently uses her single days,

Trusts God with unwavering faith,

Demonstrates virtue in daily life,

Loves God with undistracted devotion,

Stands for physical and emotional purity,

Lives in security,

Responds to life in contentment,

Makes choices based on her convictions,

And waits patiently for God to meet her needs

By Jackie Kendall

Ladies, I recommend you purchase this book no matter what your relationship status looks like. Lady in Waiting is a book I am constantly looking back at and rereading over and over again. I am always learning something new to pray on. I first heard of this book the summer I moved churches and loved it. I forgot about the book until after the end of a relationship and it was recommended to me by my mentor. It was so helpful reading that encouragement after a heartbreak. And now with being in this season of contentment with the Lord, it is still so encouraging.

You need to be so in love and confident in the Lord, that when a man comes along it will not distract you from the Lord. You also have to learn to love yourself before you can ever love a significant other. Let Jesus define who you are before you fall in the trap of letting a man define you. Relationships are great for sure, but being single is amazing and quite often overlooked. Going from being in a relationship to single can feel lonely, but it does not have to be. It is so easy to be influenced by the worlds view of a breakup, but we have to be filling our mind with scripture. We have to be spending our time in prayer to overcome the loneliness we might feel.

Do not become emotionally distracted because you are sad being single. Use the season you are in by learning the gifts God has given you. Take that extra time to pour into your friends and family. Do not be distracted by the world but instead be devoted to the Lord. Stop drowning in your sorrows when your are not the one getting engaged, married or celebrating two years of dating via Instagram. Stop being jealous of relationships when in reality we need to first focus on our personal relationship with Christ. I hear this phrase all the time, "How can she get a boyfriend but I can't" and the reason is because it is not your time yet! Trust God's timing, even though it is way easier said than done His ways are far better.

For everything there is a season,

and a time for every matter under

heaven.

Ecclesiastes 3:1

Wait for the Lord; be strong, and

let your heart take courage; wait

for the Lord!

Psalm 27:4

Trust in the Lord with all your heart,

and do not lean on your own

understanding. In all your ways

acknowledge him, and he will make

straight your paths.

Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the Lord, and do good;

dwell in the land and befriend

faithfulness. Delight yourself in the

Lord, and he will give you the desires

of your heart.

Psalm 37:3-4

I do not remember who said this but it has stuck with me- "enjoy this season of singleness, because it could be preparing you for a lifetime of marriage."

Trust Gods timing and wait on HIM before you go to him.

Lastly, dwell in this season of singleness because you are exactly where God wants you to be.